I love this quote from Walt Disney. I used to worry about a lot of things. I am starting to let go of that. When I look back, a lot of the things I worried about never actually came to fruition. I realized that was a lot of wasted time. Time that could have been used more productively.
I think that worry goes hand-in-hand with the “would have, could have, should have” game. When I was a student, after I’d written an exam, or submitted a paper, I’d think about all of the things I could have said. I worried that I wouldn’t receive as high of a mark, because I hadn’t included those additional thoughts. The truth is, I did fine. I graduated with an honours degree, and was involved in my campus community. I loved my undergrad experience and am a proud UW alumna.
This followed me into my professional life. I would second guess myself, asking “did I say the right thing to that student?” or “I should have said X, Y, Z in that meeting.” Instead of focusing on the past, and we all know that we can’t change that, I now try to be more solutions oriented, and instead of dwell on the past, reflect on what I have learned and take the lesson with me.
This is not always easy. Sometimes I’ll look back and think about how different things would be if I had chosen another path. At the same time, I think that I am the sum of my experiences – which means I am always learning and growing – and that if I had done something differently, I wouldn’t be who I am today. Complex, isn’t it? I’m sure I’m not the only one who tows this line.
So when I start to go there, to worry about things I can’t change, or things that may never be, I think of this:
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
What do you do when worry creeps into your life?
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